Emotions and Mapping

Emotions And Mapping
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Emotions are conditions of feelings that people experience naturally during conflicts. In such an incident, a natural strain of opposite takes place in order to harden or soften. The intensity of emotions differs as self-protective actions are processed in the right side of the brain. The involved persons view emotions as bad or good and the sort of emotion expressed identifies relationships. Emotions can serve various purposes and negatives emotions like anger may serve as an awakening call ( HYPERLINK "/search?tbo=p&tbm=bks&q=inauthor:%22William+Wilmot%22&source=gbs_metadata_r&cad=5" Wilmot &  HYPERLINK "/search?tbo=p&tbm=bks&q=inauthor:%22Joyce+Hocker%22&source=gbs_metadata_r&cad=5" Hocker, 2011). Other kind of emotions like depression and sadness brings an awakening call to poor or trouble in relationship. In most cases men, easily express anger while women expresses sadness.
Personally, the anger emotions bring about tightening up of all the muscles and at times turning away is the best option. The best weapon would be to keep off the conflict or argument in order to avoid more eruptions of anger because that leads to extremes of violence. While still at the scene of conflict, taking measures of revenge always seem to be the best solution. Words of fury and insults may be the optional weapon and at times attempts for physical engagements like fights ( HYPERLINK "/search?tbo=p&tbm=bks&q=inauthor:%22William+Wilmot%22&source=gbs_metadata_r&cad=5" Wilmot &  HYPERLINK "/search?tbo=p&tbm=bks&q=inauthor:%22Joyce+Hocker%22&source=gbs_metadata_r&cad=5" Hocker, 2011) The partner in the conflict is always the one at fault and thus a personal force of blames and criticism towards the direction. On the other hand, the counterpart in the conflict remains calm and reserved throughout the entire argument. There are traces of regrets from the expressions and protests, seeming to bear the entire load coming from the opposite direction. There is softness in his emotions and he even makes efforts of calming the situation by making sure that he remains calm. There is not any resistance experienced during the conflict and he only tries to put defense in cases of fights rather than fight back. If things become uncontrollable, he opts to keep relaxed until the environment becomes favorable to sort out the conflict (Heider, 1991).
In managing personal anger, it is good to always be aware that erupting will only complicate the conflict. Although in many occasions it helps to relieve frustrations, there is a better way of making sure that the counter pat does not feel oppressed or offended. The best way of managing anger is after experiencing a potential urge to erupt, it is advisable to calm down and try to manage deep breaths to relax the nervous system. Bruno, G. (2002). Alternatively, withdrawing from the scene of conflict is important to avoid further arousal of anger and solve the problem once calm. Saying things that are likely to be regretted is not good; otherwise, the counterparts may always recall the insults and blames, which may not be good for future relationship. The hard driven emotions are derived from the right side of the brain and the person with these feelings of emotions builds up in the process of the conflict. Personally, these are feelings experienced and they are difficult to deal with especially if not properly dealt with ( HYPERLINK "/search?tbo=p&tbm=bks&q=inauthor:%22William+Wilmot%22&source=gbs_metadata_r&cad=5" Wilmot &  HYPERLINK "/search?tbo=p&tbm=bks&q=inauthor:%22Joyce+Hocker%22&source=gbs_metadata_r&cad=5" Hocker, 2011).
The best way of managing anger is to first acknowledge that we are angry and then locate our fears. The counter pat always seem calm throughout the conflict yet deep inside there is a likelihood of explosion. He might wait patiently until the counter pat calms down in order for him to reason. He might as well explode in a systematic manner as the progress of his reasoning takes place and as he refers to some insults or bitter words that were said in the conflict. This kind of emotions is produced from the left hemisphere of the brain. Most outbursts during conflict are caused by inability to control the anger. This scenario is not always amusing since people who care about each other may say things that they do not really mean just to relieve their anger. Most of the time the second counterpart who bears soft side of the brain is able to relieve anger because he is not hysterical. Both the hard and soft emotions ought to adapt conflict resolution by conquering raw emotions (Johnson, 2004).
When people talk about regulating their feelings from inside out, it would mean sharing your feelings with someone. It could be with the person in whom the conflict started or another party all-together. This way, a process of healing will emerge since the emotions of either anger or frustrations will not remain in the heart. The pouring out brings about frankness and physical and psychological health, not only to the people practicing it but also to the counter parts. It also helps to strengthen ...