Marriage the Role of Husband; Role of Wife

Marriage the Role of Husband; Role of Wife Student’s Name Course Title Instructor Date Marriage the Role of Husband; Role of Wife Marriage According to the Bible, marriage was initiated by God in the Garden of Eden during creation as unification between man and woman. According to Piper marriage designed after the covenant relationship sealed by Christ to his saved people who are the church. He states that the ultimate purpose of marriage is to display commitment of Christ and His church. By staying married to someone is not all about staying in love with that person but maintaining the covenant. When a couple divorces, hey not only break the covenant but also misrepresent Christ and his covenant. It is an intimate relationship where a man and a woman become physically one during their entire life. Marriage is the legal process or a religious process which two people become husband and wife. It is the state of two people getting married. The bible defines marriage as a holy agreement before God. The couples sign a contract of commitment when they are officially married. Marriage differs from religion to religion and society to society.[Jay E. Adams, Marriage, Divorce, and Remarriage in the Bible (New York: HarperCollins, 2008)] Characteristics of marriage * Marriage is a common social practice found in most of the societies. * It is an enduring bond developed between husband and wife. The relationship is meant to fulfill religious, biological, social and psychological aims. * It is a connection between two people of the different sex and is based reciprocal obligations and rights. * Marriage establishes a family where the couple can procreate and bring up children. * Marriage is either associated with a civil or religious ceremony. * It has certain symbols used to signify marriage. Such symbols include social cloths, a ring, or vermillion. Monogamy: It is a kind of marriage where a man is married to one woman. It is popular in many communities around the globe. Monogamy is divided into straight and serial monogamy. Under straight monogamy, individuals are not allowed to remarry. In serial monogamy, an individual is permitted to remarry. Remarrying may be due to the death of one spouse or if the couples have divorced.[Douglas Goodin, God's Design for Marriage: What You Need to Know Before You Say 'i Do!' (2013)] Principles of marriage It is a holy institution initiated by God: Man did not bring about marriage, but God did from the beginning. Marriage is part of God's creation. God first created man and later gave him a companion who was to be referred to as a wife. A woman was designed to be a helper to the man. Marriage unites a man and a woman into one flesh: The woman was made from his flesh so that she could be equal to him. A man leaves his parents' home to be joined to his wife, thus becoming one flesh. A woman was created from the man; therefore, they are from the same origin. From the beginning, marriage aimed to provide companionship and sexual fulfillment to the man and woman. Man and woman have different roles in a marriage relationship: In a marriage relationship, man and have different functions. None is more superior to the other, but they are different. Man’s responsibility is to provide for the family while a woman will bear children. From the creation narrative, man is considered to be the eventual headship over the family, including his wife.[ Gayle Somers and Sarah Christmyer, Genesis: Part I: God and His Creation Genesis 1-11 (Emmaus Road Publishing, 2004)] [The Book of Deuteronomy: Introduction and Commentary (2015)] Sexual Relationships outside marriage is no tolerated: Spouses should remain faithful to each other. A man should decide the type of marriage that he desires. It can either be a polygamy setting or monogamy setting. By being sure of what he wants, he can remain faithful to one sexual partner. The Role of the Husband Love his wife: It’s the responsibility of a husband to love his wife genuinely. A husband is expected to love his wife in during the happy and challenging moments. The bible has instructed husbands to love their wives. They should continuously let their wives know that they are loved, valued, and respected. By doing so, the marriage will not only be ling lasting, but also it will be filled with happiness. A husband should love his wife in truth and with actions. Planning; A husband should work together with his and come up with good plans regarding the family. A project is essential as it provides direction to marriage, thus becoming progressive. Marriage is not an easy task, and it requires efforts and time from both partners. The husband ensures that plans are well executed; thus, the success of his marriage. Providing: It is the responsibility of a husband to provide for both his spouse and family. The wife role is to assist her husband in providing for the family in any way possible. A husband should provide all the material needs of his family. He should also offer spiritual needs to his wife and children by ensuring that they spend more time reading the word of God. Protecting: A husband being the head of a family it is his role to protect his wife and children. For example, he should protect his children from bad music, movies or lousy influence from their friends. He should protect his wife from hostile relatives. He should take the responsibility of ensuring that there is discipline in his home. Leader: A husband must be a leader of his home. He should be able to manage his with assistance from his wife. Being a leader does not mean that a husband should be a dictator in his home but should positively influence his family. He should be able to guide his children and have the ability to solve conflicts that may arise in the family. A husband should be a spiritual leader, ensuring his family aligns with biblical teachings. Serve his wife: A husband should serve his wife understanding her needs and trying to meet them. A husband should ensure that her wife is always at peace, and nothing is troubling her. The husband should help his wife in achieving her dreams and overcoming pressures. The Responsibilities of a Wife Respect: It is the responsibility of a wife to respect her husband. When a wife respects his husband, it means that she reverences him, honors him, regards him, notices him, esteems and prefers him. By recognizing him, the wife also values his opinion, appreciates his commitment towards and considers all his values and needs. A wife should cheer and believe in his husband. Love her husband: For any marriage to be successful there must be love both physical and emotional. Wives should love and accept their husbands they are. A wife should love his husband by being committed to their intimate relationship. Love eliminates isolation in marriage. Help to your husband: A wife should a guide to his husband in times of both happiness and struggles. A wife should support his husband both financially and emotionally. Being there to help him saves him from depression and other negative aspects that arise from being under pressure. Companion: A Christian spouse is called to be her partner’s closest companion. At the point when God planted the man, Adam, in the nursery of Eden, he pronounced. "It isn't great that the man ought to be distant from everyone else; I will make him a partner fit for him. She doesn't need to participate in each action her husband has an interest in, yet she ought to appreciate the time she goes through with him. An adoring couple has a lot of fun, getting a charge out of the time they spend together. A Christian spouse is a lady of strength and reason who carries on with the existence of trustworthiness. A woman who is experiencing full scale for God, her inspirations and activities will be under His Word. Such a wife leads to the establishment of unshakable marriage. Caring for her family: Home is the area that a woman is responsible for maintaining. She ensures that her family is well cared for, which is not usually easy when she has other shared responsibilities or work outside the home. A husband should provide full support to his wife by loving her as taking care of a family is not an easy task. Strength and wisdom help a woman manage her own. Headship and Submission Headship The society is filled with biased information on the true meaning of authority and submission. This challenge has been there since the fall of man in Genesis chapter three. In our culture, headship is defined as an entitlement, superiority, rights or privilege. Primacy is not all about opportunity and superiority. Advantage leads to broken relationships, lack of trust, abuse and resentment. If one party has a superiority attitude, it means that the other party is considered inferior. In a marriage context, the husband is the head of the family. He has the authority to lead his family spiritually and also pave a direction for his family. God has bestowed husbands with stewardships; thus, he must lead his family in the right teachings of God. A husband should be loving, selfless, sacrificial, servant-hearted and caring. It is the joy of a husband to help his family or home and his delight to be affectionate towards his wife. He ensures that his family is well protected, and provided for, spiritually, emotionally, financially spiritually. According to the bible, headship is the desire to willingly give one's life for another out of compassion, care and love. Husbands should love and treat their wives as their flesh. A husband greatest desire is for his wife fully respects him while the wife expects to be loved unconditionally. A wife craves for his husband’s attention and affection while a husband needs to feel appreciated and acknowledged for his effort in providing for the family. If a wife respects her husband and her husband continuously love her and takes care of the family, the marriage is unified. In a marriage where a man does not listen to his wife does not support her nor bosses her around is not considered as biblical headship and submission. This type of marriage is likely to fail. A husband should use his authority to bring up a happy and unified family.[John Drane, The World of the Bible (Kidderminster: Lion Books, 2014)] [Scott LaPierre, Marriage God's Way: A Biblical Recipe for Healthy, Joyful, Christ-Centered Relationships (2016)] Being the head of the family, it means: * The husband is the provider for the family * He protects his family * He rep...